Pride is the opposite of Nothingness, that is, low self-esteem, another extreme that does not lead to anything good. Pride and Arrogance are directly related to the self-esteem of a person, or rather to the problems of self-esteem.

Why do you think Pride in Christianity is considered a mortal sin and the most serious of all sins?

Pride is equivalent in severity to the murder of another person. Have you ever wondered how many destinies, how many talented and smart people this companion of success (pride) ruined? How many feelings and relationships are destroyed because of pride? But do not confuse Pride with Pride, these are radically opposite concepts.

What is Pride?

First, let's give some expanding definitions. Why several? Because pride is a very complex and many-sided flaw and a very dangerous sin.

Pride is an inflated self-esteem, when a person considers himself better than he really is, and also better than all other people. The problem is that this is an inadequate assessment of oneself, which leads to the commission of fatal life mistakes.
Pride is disrespect for other people, which manifests itself as arrogance, bragging, ingratitude, inattention to others, etc.
And here is what Wikipedia says about this, the definition is capacious and spiritually competent, in our opinion.

Pride differs from simple pride in that a person blinded by pride boasts of his qualities before God, forgetting that he received them from Him. This is the arrogance of a person, the belief that he can do everything himself and achieve everything on his own, and not with the help and will of God. In pride, a person does not thank God for everything that he has (for example, hearing, sight, life) and receives (for example, food, shelter, children).

Here is another definition that we consider adequate and reflects the essence of pride

Pride (lat. Superbia) or Arrogance - the desire to consider yourself independent and the only reason for all the good that is in you and around you.

Hypertrophied and overgrown Pride turns into delusions of grandeur. The main programs (settings) of pride, which you need to say goodbye to (replace with adequate beliefs).

What does a person stricken with pride usually think and say?

“I am the best, the most beautiful, the smartest, the most worthy, the most” ...
“I am better than others, smarter, stronger, cooler, etc.”, “And this means that I should have more than others, I have the right to it, I’m better ...”, “So I have others and the whole world owe a lot more than I owe them and this world”, “And if I’m so cool and everyone owes me, then it’s not necessary to thank them, they owe me ... it’s not necessary to appreciate them, they should appreciate me, I’m on much better than all of them…”, etc.
Familiar?

If you are honest enough with yourself, then you will remember examples from your life when you thought so, and how it ended up. Think of examples of other people who behaved in a similar way, and what was your reaction to their attitude and behavior.

How is pride usually formed or where does it come from?

1. Wrong education. For example, when parents inspire their child from childhood - “you are the best”, “the smartest”, “the most”, “you are better than others”. It is especially bad when it is an absolute lie and is not backed up by life. That is, the child has not done anything good, but he is praised and praised.

2. When a person is not trained to work with his Self-Esteem, is not trained to work with his shortcomings, treat them correctly and eliminate them. Then, with the first success, he begins to think that he is so great, and not God, the Universe and Fate favor him. That is, when a person appropriates all the merits and successes to himself, that all this is only thanks to him alone, his uniqueness and genius.

The Problems That Pride Causes

Sin of Pride

Surely everyone noted for themselves that when a person is carried away by Pride, it is unpleasant, and often even unbearable to communicate and deal with him. Is it really unpleasant when you are treated with arrogance and arrogance, like a second-class person? Everyone doesn't like this attitude.

When pride begins to carry a person, it becomes difficult to communicate with him, normal people who respect themselves begin to shun such a person and avoid communicating with him in every possible way. In the end, he is left alone, alone with his pride, dissatisfied with all other people and their behavior.

Many Religions say: Pride is the mother of all other sins. It really is. When a person has been carried away by pride, he begins to demand undeserved attention to himself - vain glory, and this is Vanity.

A person struck by pride, in the halo of his own greatness and uniqueness, stops seeing the virtues and talents of other people, loses the value of everything that he has in life, everything that others do for him. His behavior manifests itself as disrespect, arrogance, arrogance, in some cases, as rudeness and pugnacity. Such a person becomes incredibly suspicious, touchy and conflict.

Resentment is a quality that begins to grow in a proud man by leaps and bounds. It is rightly said that if a person cannot calmly listen to criticism addressed to him, if at the same time he is nervous, twitching and offended, he is struck by pride. The inability to accept constructive criticism is the first sign of pride. And the first companion of pride is resentment, because for such a person others will always be to blame for everything, and he will blame other people for all his mistakes and mistakes.

Pride - almost completely stops the development and personal growth of a person, he simply cannot learn. And where should he grow, he is already the coolest and smartest. And there is no person who is worthy to be his Teacher or mentor, because he is above all other people, or rather little people. But most importantly, the inadequacy of the perception of a person struck by pride does not allow him to see his shortcomings, and therefore correct his mistakes. He doesn't even have the honesty to himself to even admit he was wrong. And if he is right in everything and he is not mistaken, then others are mistaken, they are so bad, which means it is not appropriate for him to work on his shortcomings, there is nothing for him to change in himself, he is already just super.

In fact, Pride is an illusory, that is, inadequate perception of oneself, an illusion. This insidious illusion raises a person as high as his imagination and growing megalomania will allow him, and reaching its maximum, pride throws a person down into a state of insignificance. Many people, falling from the height of their pride, break (destroy themselves and their destiny) and never rise again. So be careful!

What is replaced by Pride and Arrogance?

Pride is replaced by an adequate perception of oneself, respect for oneself and others.

Adequate self-perception - adequate self-esteem: when a person absolutely calmly recognizes both his advantages and his shortcomings, and works with them (eliminates and replaces them with advantages).

Respect for oneself and others is a fair attitude: to value not only one's own merits and merits, but also the merits and merits of other people. To honestly and fairly evaluate yourself and others, as well as to fairly express your gratitude in words, attitudes and deeds.

We really hope that now such a sin as Pride has become more understandable for you, which will certainly help you protect yourself from it. For he comes very imperceptibly, even with small successes and victories, but grows very quickly behind a person's back, hiding from his eyes. And when pride has grown and strengthened, in fact it turns out to be very difficult to do something with it, to defeat it.

Pride and Pride are branches of the same root, but the fruits on them are different ...

Pride- unreasonable pride , arrogance, arrogance, selfishness (Explanatory Dictionary)

Pride differs from simple pride in that a person blinded by pride boasts of his qualities before God, forgetting that he received them from Him. This is the arrogance of a person, the belief that he can do everything himself and achieve everything on his own, and not with the help and will of God. The proud man is rarely a grateful person: he is always convinced that he receives less than he deserves. In pride, a person does not thank God for everything that he has (for example, hearing, sight, life) and receives (for example, food, shelter, children).

In other words, pride is when instead of God, who is in the center of the picture of being, I myself become in this center. And the whole picture of the world is then distorted, because in the center it's still God, it's only in my imagination somehow different. So it turns out that with my wrong picture of the world, I'm always on something stumble. It seems to me that there should be a passage here, and here is a column, and I will fight against it all the time.

All religions recognize this quality as one of the most serious mortal sins.It underlies or intersects with such vices as greed, envy and anger. For example, the desire for enrichment (Greed) is caused by the fact that a person wants to become not just rich, but richer than other people, he envy (Envy), because he does not allow the thought that somebody lived better than he, he gets irritated and angry (Anger) when the other person does not recognize his superiority, etc. That is why almost all theologians put pride in the first place in the black list of sins.

But, nevertheless, it is sometimes very difficult to discern it in oneself. Because the line of difference between pride and pride is sometimes very thin. As the saying goes "Respecting your self - you may not notice how you spit in the souls of the people around you ... an overly respected ego - this is pride.

"Pride goes before a fall."(English proverb)

So, as they say, you need to know the enemy by sight. And by carefully studying the signs of pride, we can begin to meditate on them and monitor their manifestations in our heart. This will help us a lot develop favorable qualities such as humility, respect, and will help harmonize our relationship with this world and strengthen us on the spiritual path. becauseour pride helps us see the bad in people and prevents us from seeing the good.

"Sleepers dream of their own importance. The awakened ones become conductors of the significance of the universe for those who are still sleeping."

This list of "distinctive" signs of pride is based on the seminar of Sri Jishnu prabhu (Sergey Timchenko) "54 signs of pride".

Pride is:

1. The immutability of the fact that you are always right. Confidence in one's own constant rightness (infallibility).
2. Patronizing attitude towards others, attitude down.
3. Feeling of self-importance.
4. Humiliation of yourself and others.
5. The idea that you are better than others, boasting.
6. Attributing to oneself the works and merits of other people.
7. The ability to put an opponent at a disadvantage, managing people to achieve the desired.
8. Control over the situation, but without taking responsibility for the situation.
9. Haughty attitude, vanity, the desire to often look in the mirror.
10. Displaying wealth, clothes, etc.
11. Refusal to allow others to help themselves and unwillingness to work together with others.
12. Attracting attention to yourself.
13. Talking or talking about your problems.
14. Touchiness.
15. Excessive sensitivity or insensitivity.
16. Excessive preoccupation with one's own person.
17. Thoughts about what others think or say about you.
18. Using words the listener doesn't understand and you're talking about it you know.
19. Feeling worthless.
20. Refusing to change or thinking you shouldn't change.
21. Unforgiving yourself and others.
22. Dividing people into hierarchical levels - who is better or more important,
then behavior according to the hierarchy.
23. The thought that you are more important than others when doing a specific job.
24. Take on overwork.
25. Distrust of people, God, Messengers and Lords.
26. A state of concern about what impression you make on others.
27. The idea that you are above the law and are a special son of God.
28. Creation of an idol from oneself and from others.
29. Work beyond measure, i.e. so much that the physical body is not withstands.
30. Changing the manner of behavior depending on who you are talking to.
31. Ingratitude.
32. Ignoring "small people".
33. Inattention.
34. Unawareness of one's pride and spiritual problems.
35. The presence of an irritable tone.
36. Raising the voice in anger and annoyance.
37. The thought of teaching someone a lesson, or talking about a third person inhumiliating tone.
38. Disobedience to the will of God.
39. Lack of self-respect.
40. "What could you do for me?".
41. Recklessness and folly.
42. The presence of the attitude "my brother is my keeper", the reverse position "I am the keeper of my brother."
43. Dishonesty towards self and others
44. Inability to compromise.
45. Desire to always have the last word.
46. ​​Unwillingness to share their knowledge in order to be able to control.
47. Inattention to the physical body or excessive attention to it. Inattention to your soul.
48. The thought that you have to do it, because. no one else canmake it better.
49. Pointing out the mistakes of another in a tone of condemnation.
50. The thought of the need to save others from their problems (both thought and action).
51. Prejudice towards people depending on appearance, skin color, etc.
52. Pride in position.
53. Excessive self-respect.
54. Sarcasm.

Pride is useful and necessary for a person. It allows you to follow beliefs, maintain inner balance, maintain self-respect, not let yourself be humiliated, teaches you to value yourself. But what to do if pride has grown into pride - a cocktail of pride, selfishness, arrogance and arrogance. Believers consider it a mortal sin. Psychology, on the other hand, will say that pride interferes with personal development, building relationships, and moving up the career ladder. For pride people always have to pay dearly. - one of the payment options.

The study of pride is at the intersection of psychology, philosophy and ethics. Pride is the opposite of humility. A proud person is not able to make compromises, concessions, sacrifice something (sometimes himself).

It’s not shameful to be proud of well-deserved successes, but it’s not good to constantly insert your “I” into the topic and not. A proud person looks at everything with contempt. And in fact, he does not respect himself, although he positions himself almost as the creator of the whole world.

Pride is attributing great merit and dignity to oneself, overestimating oneself against the background of belittling the dignity of other people. A proud person believes that only he is worthy of attention, praise, admiration. Because of his belief that other people do not deserve attention, and people can and should be treated like things, the carrier of pride receives the hatred of the environment and persecution.

What else is dangerous pride:

• A person forgets that he is not perfect, that failures happen to everyone, and circumstances do not always turn out the way we want.
• The more pride is fed and developed, the less a person conducts an internal dialogue and the more he blames the universe itself, he does not see his guilt in the causes of failures.
• After this, the process of self-destruction of the personality often begins, escape from reality, and the experiences themselves, negative emotions have a destructive effect on the body.
• Pride does not allow concessions, provokes. As a result, friends and loved ones turn away from a person, but the proud man himself does not understand that he betrayed everything for the sake of his pride.
• If pride is combined with cruelty, then a tyrant will appear before us.

Pride and pride

Pride is the result of overcoming difficulties, working on oneself, conscious actions, confirmation of the value of a person. Pride wants to show - and that's fine. Because the heroes are revered in front of the audience, they shoot reports about them. If you have something to be proud of, then you need to do it. These are pleasant and useful emotions.

What is interesting: for the emergence of pride, it is necessary to identify yourself with a reason for pride. We can admire the actions of other people, but only if this is a person close to us, we will experience a sense of pride in him and our involvement in this person. According to this principle, one can be proud of a friend, family, country.

What is the difference between pride and pride?

• Pride is a moral feeling. It includes self-sufficiency, self-esteem, personal independence. At the same time, it is awareness of the conformity of actions to values ​​and beliefs. Pride can be felt for oneself or for another person.
• Pride encourages and motivates to new achievements and self-development. It makes a person believe in their own strength, see their capabilities and potential, strive for the best.
• Pride can only be in relation to the person himself, his Ego. Moreover, this person does not necessarily have reasons to be proud of himself. Pride can be based on one and an unhealthy sense of self-worth (significance). Pride slows down, separates a person from society.

Prideful people are prone to envy. They often claim someone else's place, regardless of what is completely inconsistent with it. The owner of pride always has excessive demands, he is always dissatisfied and expects more. For he sincerely believes that his beautiful personality deserves all the best and constantly something new. Such people in absentia consider the world to be bad, they try to put every person in their place (as the proud sees).

Reasons for the development of pride

Unfortunately, normal and useful pride can develop into pride - baseless and exaggerated pride and a number of other immoral qualities. But pride and such an arrogant attitude towards the world does not necessarily follow from adequate pride.

• Roots can go into, complexes. Then pride is a variant of overcompensation.
• Another possible reason: a person despises others because of his social status, moreover, coming from the family (the parents achieved it, but the proud man himself did nothing at all, but inflated his Ego).

How to get rid

To overcome pride, you need to cultivate humility in yourself - the realization that there is no limit to perfection, the recognition of one's imperfection and the ability to correspond to circumstances.

This is not a philosophy of slavery or the cultivation of self-denial. Although, unfortunately, so many people understand the term humility, identifying it with patience. In fact, this is a certain wisdom, resignation to the fact that no one is perfect: neither we ourselves, nor the world as a whole. This is humility with the fact that not everything is subject to man: we are not given the opportunity to change the structure of the world and the consciousness of mankind in the broad sense of the word. There are some objective things, laws, and also subjective opinions of other people. This must be taken into account, that is, put up with, take into account and correct your behavior within the framework of this concept.

Which involuntarily suggests the second element of getting rid of pride: getting rid of unhealthy egoism, developing an adequate attitude towards people. Moreover, this is not about altruism, but about the golden mean, when you do something for the benefit of yourself and society at the same time.

Except with the help of self-control, you cannot change your thinking and behavior.

1. First of all, set the main goal: for the sake of what you want to get rid of pride. "Just because it's sinful and bad" won't do. Write down on paper what pride has deprived you of, and what you can gain (what abilities, statuses, what people) by getting rid of it. Highlight the main goal, for example, "by getting rid of pride, I will establish a relationship with my loved one, because I want to be with him."
2. Further, it is important to learn how to turn to people for advice and be interested in their opinion. First exercise: ask to make your portrait. Since you are proud, then it’s better not to give this task for independent execution for the time being. But people from the outside will honestly and, most likely, adequately describe your advantages and disadvantages. Accept this portrait without any arguments.
3. Further, the plan is individual: what is written in a negative way - we remove it, what is written in a positive way - we return, develop, instill.
4. . Ask their opinion regularly and listen to what other people have to say. You must understand that each person is an individual and interesting person with their own rights and beliefs. A good exercise is watching movies with further discussion. You can discuss with friends, or you can retell the story on behalf of different characters.
5. Practice and only practice. Every day do something that is below your dignity (as you think). Just please don't go to extremes, you don't need real humiliation. Your goal is to recycle pride into pride, and not completely kill the sense of self-worth.
6. Do not be afraid of kind words and gratitude. There should be more of them in your vocabulary than reproaches and criticism. Develop along with it.

Pride is a worm that causes processes of decay in the human soul. It is possible to eradicate it, but it is not easy to do it, and one cannot do without help. Admitting your imperfections and asking for help is the first but most important step. If you were able to say "I suffer from pride and that's why I'm not perfect", then you can no longer be categorically called a proud person.

The main thing is not to reject this help. Those people who agreed to help deserve a widow more pleasant words, because it is not easy to endure a proud man. To do this, you need to see the positive potential. And if someone saw it, then you have every chance of success if you yourself see your true potential.

The question of what pride and pride are, what is the difference between them, can confuse even a philosopher. A search in dictionaries and everyday experience of a social person may lead to the conclusion that pride is a very positive feeling. Pride is opposed to it and considered a negative manifestation of arrogance and vanity.

Words that sound the same?

Words that are similar in spelling and sound are paronyms. They are so similar that they may seem to have the same root, but unlike really related words, their meaning varies greatly. Based on the meanings indicated in the dictionaries, it is usually concluded that positive pride and negative pride are words similar to each other. This implies that their meaning is very different /

But what is the difference between pride and pride? It is generally accepted that pride is a natural and positive emotion in achieving success. A person may be proud of a job well done, winning a sporting event, acquiring knowledge or things. Speaking of pride as a positive feeling, they give examples of joy for their own child who entered the university, or respect for another person who has achieved some success.

Pride, on the other hand, is denoted as the tendency to consider oneself better than others, extolling one's own personality, but belittling the dignity of other people. At the same time, it is often confused with arrogance (the tendency to judge a person’s merits by their position in society), and with vanity (the desire to receive recognition or praise for owning something), and with self-affirmation (the desire to raise self-esteem by judging something else). Of course, these qualities can hardly be called positive personality traits.

But is it rare that parents, proud of the achievements of their child, consider themselves the cause of this? They have such a high opinion of their pedagogical talents that they do not notice the achievements of their son or daughter's peers, especially if they themselves have little interest in the area in which other children achieve success. Exalting the virtues of their child, who won a small victory, they form in him vanity, and the desire for self-affirmation, and arrogance.

Pride in one's country can lead to chauvinism. In this case, too, there is rarely a question of respecting the neighboring state or other peoples. The victory of the football team is equated with the exaggerated value of every citizen of the country who is rooting for the team, although the real success belongs only to the athletes.

There are many examples. They all come down to this: where pride is found, pride is always present. Positive emotion at some elusive moment becomes its opposite. How big is the difference between pride and pride, and does it exist at all?

The concept of pride in religious teachings

Almost all religious and philosophical systems agree that pride and pride, which are similar in sound, are not so different in the spiritual sense. The presence of the Creator, whose existence is recognized by all world religions, makes any human achievement exclusively the will of the supreme being. From this point of view, the difference between pride and pride is completely imperceptible.

The primary act of manifestation of pride, as a high self-esteem and comparison of oneself with the Higher powers, belongs to the antagonist of the supreme deity. Being a creation, he imagined himself equal to the Creator (like Lucifer, for example). The lack of humility and recognition of himself only as a product of someone's activity led him to fall, that is, to deprive him of the protection of the Creator. Similar moments are present in every religion.

Humility is called the main virtue of a man of religion. It is interpreted as the ability not to humiliate yourself in front of arrogant proud people who try to humiliate everyone around and enjoy their goodness, success or strength, but to recognize only the will of the Creator. From the position of spirituality, a person who is aware of his existence is not able to humiliate another. But a manifestation of pride (pride) of religion is also considered a judgment about another as a proud person: after all, in this way a person begins to consider himself better than him. The meaning of humility lies precisely in not making any good or bad judgments about others, leaving it to the judgment of the supreme deity, and pride and pride merge together.

Should you be proud of yourself?

To a secular person, such a position may be incomprehensible. We are brought up in a spirit of constant striving to be better at something: tie your shoelaces more carefully, get an excellent grade in school, get into a prestigious university and get a good job. The presence of the best, modern, expensive things makes a person successful in the eyes of society. Therefore, questions arise about what kind of feeling an arrogant and conceited person experiences: pride or pride owns his consciousness?

Opinions are often expressed that the pride that drives us to gain recognition is not such a bad feeling. Thanks to pride, new technologies are developed, qualifications are acquired in professional activities. For the sake of the moment of experiencing a positive emotion, people are able to work tirelessly.

To get the title of Olympic champion, athletes train to the limit of human capabilities. When one of them achieves a brilliant result, the media and fans repeat only that this is entirely the achievement of the champion. There are also examples of how an insignificant accident leads to injury, and sometimes to the death of an athlete. But these are also the consequences of his pride in his strength or dexterity, the desire to reach even greater heights and get another portion of fame and experience a new bout of self-satisfaction.

Are religions that consider both pride and pride the same mortal sin really wrong? Achieving success in some business, you must always keep in mind the inexplicable fact that not everything depends solely on the efforts of a person. And even in legitimate pride, there can always be a little negative desire to look the best in the eyes of others, surpassing everyone who is not now on the podium.

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arrogance, pride, pl. no, female (bookish obsolete). Exorbitant pride (see proud in 2 meanings), arrogance. "Overwhelmed with pride, I deceived God and kings." Pushkin. Explanatory Dictionary of Ushakov. D.N. Ushakov. 1935 1940 ... Explanatory Dictionary of Ushakov

arrogance, and, wives. (high). Exorbitant pride (in 1 and 4 values). Curb your pride. Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov. S.I. Ozhegov, N.Yu. Shvedova. 1949 1992 ... Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov

pride- and, only unit, f., outdated. Unreasonable pride. Pride took over. Curb pride. The Russian Orthodox consciousness recognizes any too heroic path of a person as pride ... (Berdyaev). Synonyms: arrogance / arrogance, arrogance / arrogance / arrogance ... Popular dictionary of the Russian language

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Ascend / ascend in pride. Razg. Obsolete Be proud, arrogant, disregard others. F 1, 71 ... Big dictionary of Russian sayings

Books

• Pride and Piety. (Before the Battle of Kulikovo), Bubennikov Alexander Nikolaevich. In the landmark historical novel by Professor A. N. Bubennikov, unknown events and little-studied chronicle pages of the confrontation between Moscow and Tver in the middle of the 14th century, up to ...